What is BPD?

Validation is a
communication skill

When used correctly it can help both parties in a conversation feel heard and understood to build trust.

Validation shows that you are truly listening to understand the other person’s feelings and point of view, even if you disagree. Your relationships will benefit when you communicate that you are validating the other person’s viewpoint.
borderline personality disorder - validation
Communication skills

What is validation?

Validation is a response that shows you accept and respect another person’s feelings and point of view, even when you don’t agree with them. It means answering in a way that shows the other person you believe their experience or statement is valid, and you don’t intend to change their view or correct them for being “wrong.” But validation goes beyond simply listening. It’s about showing you really hear someone and understand why they feel the way they do.

Why validation matters
alidation is particularly important during emotionally charged situations. It can be really hard to listen and respond to someone in an understanding way when you’re upset, or your experience differs from theirs. An empathetic, nonjudgmental response can reduce how often and how severe conflict is when it surfaces, which can help you improve your relationships. People who use validation in their relationships feel more supported, more satisfied, and less stressed.
*Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, published by the American Psychiatric Associationng:
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